Thoughts on Perfectionism…the double edged sword

“Life isn’t as serious as the mind makes it out to be.”- Eckhart Tolle

 

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The price of perfectionism. The implications that perfectionism bring unto the mind and body can be detrimental to living happily. When you are always searching for the flaws in everything and everyone, they become all-consuming and overpower the mind’s ability to just…BE PRESENT and VALUE yourself.

Perfectionism makes it difficult to appreciate the beauty around you. The depth of green in the trees, your child’s laughter at the simple things life, and the joy of just being ALIVE. Time seems to slip away as indulgence in imperfections consume your mind, before you know it, an hour has gone by and you haven’t gotten very far. And then your family asks “Are you ready, yet? You take FOREVER to get ready!” They joke about how long it takes you to make a SIMPLE decision, which only fuels the perfectionism with more unwanted thoughts.

True story. Perfectionism – my archenemy – inculcates my mind with unwarranted self-criticism and fear; that invariably hinders my ability to move forward and continue growing. It is during these times that I have to check in with myself, take a few deep breaths, be present, and remind my mind that it is making assumptions that are likely not true – time to move forward, show myself compassion and love.

Today’s goal is to appreciate the intangible beauty around me and to let my thoughts drift out of my mind as quickly as they are formulated. “Let it goooooo!!!”

Bridal GLAM: Destination Wedding Quandry


“Creativity takes courage.” – Henri Matisse

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What’s a bride to do when her makeup artist is unable to attend her destination wedding?

Betsy Garcete, CEO and Founder of Washington, D.C. startup Zophia, Inc., pondered over this predicament as she stared down at her extensive wedding checklist. She hadn’t a clue where to find a makeup artist in another country, let alone in a remote location that is six hours by car from the nearest major city in England. Needless to say, she gave me a ring to set up a bridal glam consultation to learn how she could achieve a flawless look on her THE BIGGEST DAY OF HER LIFE!

Our bridal consultation went a little something like this…

We set up a video conference to discuss her concerns (damn you hereditary eye bags!), demonstrated a few techniques for Betsy practice, and rummaged through her makeup bag to figure out what products she needed to purchase before her big day.

At the end of our consultation, we set up a date for a one-on-one tutorial session where I demonstrated bridal makeup application on half of Betsy’s face and then coached Betsy through glamming up the other side.

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Finished look, sans falsies, which are SO very necessary for wedding photos!! Flawless finish, if I do say so myself!!

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MIND. BODY. GLAM. – Check out my blog!


You are not defeated when you lose. You are defeated when you quit.” – Paulo Coelho

Hi loves! Welcome to MIND. BODY. GLAM.! My name is Kristin (pronounced Kristine) and I am very excited to share my journey of soul healing via my blog – MIND. BODY. GLAM. This is a positive space for me to share life as a mommy, business owner, makeup artist, MBA grad student, researcher in academic medicine… and everything in between.

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Hiking with the family: Monterey Bay – my heart!

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Jules getting her first (of many) photos with the iconic Lone Cypress

There is no better time like the PRESENT to start writing my blog. The concept for MIND.BODY.GLAM. came to fruition after I had my little one, Jules, in 2013. During a time when I thought I was supposed to be glowing and feeling happy, I was overcome with intense anxiety that infiltrated every aspect of my life — for the first year and a half of my daughter’s life. Since then, I have been on a journey of self-discovery and healing. I’ve shared my experiences with my friends and acquaintances, with and without little ones, to acknowledge that post-partum symptoms are REAL. It is both comforting and a bit shocking when your girlfriend acknowledges that she experienced post-partum depression and/or anxiety, too. Every story is unique.

I spent many months in denial. When sh*t hit the fan, I knew that I had to take care of myself. Though I struggled with my ego’s stubborn views about seeking professional help, I courageously sought therapy for my post-partum anxiety; I wanted to be the best version of myself for Jules.

Awareness was the first step in my journey to healing. Reprogramming my mind-body connection through running and seeking guidance and support from friends and medical professionals (i.e., via talk therapy) was the next step. And last, but most important IMO, unwavering devotion to be compassionate towards myself and my loved ones.

Lesson: Stop sprinting to that damn imaginary finish line (i.e., perfect life, family, career, relationship, etc.) …enjoy the journey! Be grateful and stay present!

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